This shouldn’t shock you, but most children aren’t fond of doing their homework.

这不应该让你震惊,但大多数孩子不喜欢做功课。


It’s completely understandable; adults would rather leave work at the office as well. Homework can cause stress and tension within a home, but it also serves a purpose by giving your child a chance to practice skills and learn the self-discipline to accomplish undesirable tasks in life.

这完全可以理解; 就像成年人宁愿留下工作在办公室而不愿意继续做。 家庭作业可以在家庭内部造成的压力和紧张,但它也给你的孩子有机会练习技能,学习自律来实现人生本不可能完成的任务。

Nothing is worse than seeing your students struggle to handle their homework and not knowing how you can help them. The key is to carefully manage negative emotions and provide children a healthy outlet to prevent them from feeling overwhelmed. Here are a few of the behaviors you might see from your child when  homework has them stressed.

没有什么比看到你的学生努力处理他们的功课并且不知道你如何帮助他们更糟。 关键是要小心处理负面情绪,并为孩子提供一个健康的出口,防止他们感到不知所措。 以下是您的孩子在家庭作业中强调自己的一些行为。

Procrastination 拖延

Procrastination is an easy habit to develop and one of the hardest ones to break. It’s a harmful way to handle guilt—by keeping yourself so busy that you can avoid it entirely. If you’re not sure whether your child is suffering from this state of mind, keep an eye out for the following:

拖延是一种容易养成的习惯,也是最难打破的习惯之一。 带着内疚去处理是一种有害的方式 - 通过保持自己的繁忙以至完全避免拖延。 如果您不确定您的孩子是否患有这种心理状态,请留意以下几点:

• Your child is unable to see how an assignment relates to his or her life or future. 你的孩子无法看到任务与他或她的生活或未来有何关系。

• Your child finds their work boring and loses interest quickly. 你的孩子发现自己的作业很无聊,很快就失去了兴趣。

• Your child gets distracted and cannot bring themselves to focus. 你的孩子会分心,无法自己专注。

• Your child doesn’t work on assignments until they’re forced into a time constraint. 您的孩子不能完成作业直到您要求他们在规定时间内完成作业。

• Your child is worried about failure or feels overwhelmed by expectations. 你的孩子担心失败或者被预期所困扰。

To manage procrastination, the key is communication. What does your child think about homework? Where does the issue lie? Once you’ve heard their side of the story, it becomes much easier to provide helpful solutions. If they get easily distracted, try to tone down some of the noise within your home by providing your child a quiet, distraction-free area to work. If they feel overwhelmed or scared of failure, it might require some careful planning and restructuring what you expect from your child.

为了管理拖延,关键是沟通。 你的孩子对作业有什么看法? 问题在哪里? 一旦你听到他们的故事的一面,提供有用的解决方案变得更容易。 如果他们容易分心,请尝试通过为您的孩子提供一个安静,无忧无虑的工作区域来降低家中的一些噪音。 如果他们感到不知所措或害怕失败,可能需要仔细规划和重组您对孩子的期望。

Boredom 无聊

When you see your child’s eyes glazing over as they are working on a homework assignment, it’s time to find a new method to get them thinking. A calm workspace is a great place to begin; if a child can see how productive they are, it can help them plough forward and finish their work.

当你看到你的孩子的眼睛盯着家庭作业时,是时候找到一种让他们思考的新方法。 安静的作业空间是开始作业的好地方, 如果一个孩子能看到他们做作业的效率是多么高效,可以帮助他们持续努力并完成作业。

If that’s not working, it’s important to remember that your child’s been sitting in school all day. Even the calmest kid will get anxious and tired of sitting after a while. For those children, make their home environment different from school; allow them to take breaks and let off some steam, talk with them as they work and ask questions. Let them explain their assignment and what they’re supposed to be learning. Most importantly, reward them for showing the discipline to work through their problems.

如果这不起作用,请务必记住,您的孩子一整天都在上学。 即使是最乖的孩子也会因长时间坐起着而焦虑不安。 对于这些孩子来说,让他们的家庭环境与学校不同; 让他们休息一下,宣泄一下情绪,在他们作业时和他们交谈并提问。 让他们解释他们的作业内容和他们应该学习的东西。 最重要的是,奖励他们用自律以解决他们的问题。

Restlessness 躁动

As mentioned above, it’s a lot to ask a child to sit and behave for a long school day and then do the very same thing at home for homework. Children need the chance to be active and leave the books behind for a while.

正如上面提到的,这是一个太大要求,在学校已经坐了一整天后,然后做同样的事情,在家里做作业。 孩子需要被重新激活并给他们离开书本一会儿的机会。

And in the middle of the school year, night creeps in quickly and can keep your child inside even longer. To help with the cabin fever and restlessness some children experience, provide them an outlet that gets them away from their schoolwork. If they have a favorite activity, make sure that your child has plenty of time to enjoy doing what they love. It gives your child a chance to relax as well as another way to reinforce good organization and responsible habits. If your child lacks an outlet, the process of discovering one can be extremely fun as well.

到了学期中间,晚上作业的时间在不知不觉中变快,甚至可以让您的的孩子保持更长的作业时间。 为了帮助孩子解决焦躁不安和烦躁的情绪,为他们提供一个让他们远离作业的渠道。 如果他们有一个最喜欢的活动,确保你的孩子有足够的时间享受自己喜欢做的事。 给你的孩子一个放松的机会,是强化另一种组织性和责任性的方式。 如果您的孩子没有一个放松的渠道,发现的过程也是非常有趣的。

Communicating with any child can feel precarious at times, but it’s a vital component to healthy homework habits. Homework is a chance for children to figure out how they deal with problems within their lives; it may not be their favorite activity, but it allows them to problem solve and manage their time— so long as their parents are available to help them manage the process.

与任何孩子沟通可能会感到不确定的,要看机会的,但它是培养良好家庭作业习惯的重要组成部分。 家庭作业是让孩子们了解他们如何处理生活中的问题的机会; 这可能不是他们最喜欢做的事情,但它可以让他们解决问题并管理他们的时间 - 只要他们的父母可以帮助他们管理过程。

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随着严格的考试和学生被提升到更高的学业水平,孩子们的压力越来越大。

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今日心理学说,学习倦怠不仅仅是作业或学习上简单的疲劳。 学生们可能自己努力到精疲力竭的地步 - 

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复活节 - 基督徒日历中最神圣的日子。 庆祝耶稣基督从死里复活。 

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作为父母,我们以身作则。 但是因无效的养育习惯很容易让孩子们迷失方向。

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在今天的社会环境,特别是周边的 #MeToo 运动,当涉及到社会化,专业化和约会的关系时,很多人谈论尊重女性和界限。